Marriage Proposal

   It is not everyday that you get a marriage proposal or make a marriage proposal. It is the norm that a man is the one to make the move to propose although woman could too which is still rather rare. Each and every marriage proposal is unique. Time, effort, great care, preparation and attention over the way to propose on the part of the person who is going to propose is no laughing matter. Need a lot of courage and be prepared mentally. You may get a nod, left hanging wondering without a definite answer or worse, being rejected head on.

   Oh yes, your heart must be prepared. So don't ever propose if you are not confidant about the outcome unless you are real hardy. Nowadays, the trend is to engage a wedding planner to draft out a special way to propose is on the rise. But for me, I feel that I would still prefer my special one to propose using his own innovation. Only special that way and from his very heart.

  Before you propose to your intended one, there are a few things that need some deep thinking and pondering (for both) :


1.   Are you really in love or blindly in love ? Do you know what is love ?
2.   What do you love about her/him ? What are you willing to do for the sake of love ?
3.   Answer truthfully, could you go through thick and thin together no matter what or how?
4.   Marriage is no laughing matter and not always a bed of roses. There will be up and down. Are you ready? A gamble with your life and children if any with no definite knowledge on how the ending would be.
5.   You love her/his outlook beauty more or inner beauty or both? Answer truthfully please.
6.   You'll be seeing her/him everyday or most of the time.Waking up to see a face with no pretense, no make up, hair in tousle. Are you ready to tolerate her/his shortcomings which would not be shown out when both are dating e.g. snoring when sleeping, temper, moodiness, always farting, kicking when sleeping, don't screw up the toothpaste after using, don't like to do the dishes, couldn't cook a decent meal , don't flush the latrine after use etc.
7    You want to change her/him to your standard or are you going to go through your marriage by respecting each other and agree to meet each other's standard halfway? Be a teacher or a partner to each other?
8.   Imagine that she/he in 10, 20, 30 , 40 years on, will have wrinkles all over, all her/his hair drop off, not as beautiful, may grow fat and ugly. Not that sexy or attractive anymore. Tummy bulging. Would you feel embarrass or your love dwindling or your eyes going other ways? Be truthful. You know your own kind.
9.   Are you the responsible type ?
10. Are you the type to forget your marriage vow easily ?
11. Are you the type to put yourself first or family first ?
12.  Parents, relatives,in-laws could be troublesome to a marriage. How tolerant are you? Who to listen ?
13. Why do you want to get married in the first place ? For the sake of marriage, to own her/him, for self-esteem or whatever?
14.  Money rank what place to both of you ?
15.  What are children to you ?
15.  Are both of you committed and rational ?
16.  List down all the pros and cons. Which weigh more?


If you still intend to get married, then think positive and work hard to respect, communicate and find things to love each other more. Don't look too much on each other's shortcomings but each other's strong points. Be a good heart to heart buddy with each other and for each other. GOOD LUCK ! MAY YOU LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER !


Prescription : I Do Till The Day I Die. Lean on each other's strength;  forgive each other's weaknesses.

(11.06.11-Saturday)


Two souls with a single thought, two hearts that beat as one.
- by John Keats