Parents Should Be Fair

   Some parents and children become estranged from each other. The relationship became sour for reasons apparent to them. Actually what went wrong ? Blood is supposed to be thicker than water. Things shouldn't turn so bad that they couldn't face each other and settle their differences amicably.

    I feel that parents-children should try to enhance their bond by communicating well and inculcate a culture of respect and appreciation for each other. Parents should be creative in trying to bond with their children and introduce important values into the family from the very first day of family life. Parents should ask themselves as to the kind of family they would like to have. A warm , cozy, loving atmosphere with laughters ringing every now and then in a family needs effort. Nothing comes easily.  Effort must be taken by parents especially from the very moment their children came into their lives. Then as children grow older, understanding of each other and communicating well with each other become very important. Try being good buddies with each other. It's like making a building. The foundation of a building is very important, each brick being laid is very important, if not the whole building will collapse. Same with building a family. First, the father-mother relationship should be strong. Then only they could concentrate to build a close knit family.

   Parents must try to practise fairness all the time with their children. Children are very particular and sensitive to fairness. This is their way of measuring their parents' love for them. This is actually how siblings rivalry come to be. Parents must always be fair and must explain their actions well to their children verbally at all time. Don't let children be in a guessing game and form their own ideas on whatever things you do if possible. They might misconstrue your actions, form some funny, weird ideas in their mind since young which are vital to the development of future relationship as adults. One common mistake made by parents was asking the elder sibling to give way/in to the younger sibling in terms of toys, food, place to sit, etc (even when the younger one is in the wrong) whenever children are fighting  by saying , " You are older, you must give way to your brother/sister because she is still small/younger..." Some children will start to feel the unfairness after some time. They begin to be jealous, angry, resent and so on until one day become out of hand. So much being kept to themselves without showing because they hide their feelings well, unknown to many parents until they explode one day. Parents will be in for surprise that their loving children change all of a sudden......to be continued.........


Prescription : Be Fair


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